Whether you're navigating conflict with a partner, tension with family, or frustration at work, many relationship struggles boil down to the same root issue: a lack of curiosity.

When we stop being curious, we start assuming.
We assume we know what someone meant.
We assume bad intentions.
We assume we’re right.

Curiosity, on the other hand, softens our stance. It helps us stay open, engaged, and connected—even when things are hard. Curiosity doesn’t mean agreeing with everything. It means being willing to understand.

Here are 5 simple ways to practice more curiosity in your relationships:

1. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Instead of “Did you have a good day?” try “What was the best (or hardest) part of your day?”
Open-ended questions show that you care about the whole person, not just checking in out of routine. They invite deeper sharing and help the other person feel seen.

2. Say “Tell Me More”

Sometimes the best thing to say is just: “Tell me more.”
These three words invite someone to go deeper without feeling interrogated. It's a signal that you're listening and want to understand, not just respond.

3. Get Curious About Their Lived Experience

Ask about their childhood, values, routines, or what shaped their worldview.
Curiosity isn’t just for new relationships—it’s what keeps long-term ones vibrant. We’re always evolving, and staying curious helps us grow alongside each other.

4. Notice and Name What’s Not Said

If someone seems off but isn’t talking, try gently naming what you notice:
“I noticed you seemed quiet after the meeting—how are you feeling about it?”
Curiosity can open the door to conversations people might be hesitant to start on their own.

5. Challenge Your Own Assumptions

Curiosity also means turning inward.
When you feel triggered or reactive, pause and ask yourself:

• “What else might be going on here?”
• “Is there something I might be missing?”
• This shift from judgment to curiosity can prevent a lot of unnecessary conflict.

Relationships thrive when we stop needing to be “right” and start being curious.
In a world where so many people feel misunderstood or dismissed, showing genuine interest is a powerful act of love and connection.

Want to strengthen your relationships? Start with one question:
“What don’t I know about this person yet?”